Spiritual Guidance Blog
Do Something About It, Or Let It Go!
by Robert Meagher on 02/02/21
There is a beautiful wisdom saying… “The hardest decisions
we will ever have to make in our lives is whether to stay, or to go.”
I recently launched an online business. This great adventure
gave me the opportunity to explore various ways of advertising my products
online. One of the ways that was presented to me was through Google. Google
will gladly advertise and promote your products online, so long as you comply
with their merchant policies.
Shortly after signing up for Google to advertise and promote
my products online, I was informed by Google that my merchant account had been
suspended because my products did not comply with their policies. I was
informed that my website was misrepresenting my products, but I was not
provided with any further detail as to what this misrepresentation was.
Therefore, I had no idea how to correct the problem, even if I could.
I spent a few days trying to communicate with Google about
the issue, asking for clarification about my account’s suspension. But Google
did not respond to any of my communication.
So…I was left with a choice: (a) do I do something about
this, and take on Google? or (b) do I let this go?
A part of me wanted to take on Google. A part of me was
offended at the suggestion (or accusation) that I was misrepresenting my
products. I take great pride in the products I sell and I took great care in
how the products were described and presented on my website. For someone to
suggest I was misrepresenting my products really took me by surprise. And I was
frustrated that Google had made a decision to suspend my account without any
warning and/or suggestions on how to make any necessary changes in order to
comply.
After a few days, I asked myself… “What is really important
here? What do I want out of all this?” Surely, it wasn’t to prove Google wrong
and have them reverse their decision. What was really important to me in this
situation, as it is in any situation that involves my perception of conflict,
was to have peace.
Could I have peace by taking on Google and having them
reverse their decision? I decided that wasn’t where my peace was. Therefore, I
chose to walk away.
The key in walking away from any situation is whether or not
to truly let it go. Walking away from something but continuing to gripe and
grovel about the issue, is not letting it go. Letting go involves surrender and
forgiveness. Any situation we choose to walk away from gifts us with an
opportunity for practicing surrender and forgiveness.
I will likely be tested in my surrender and forgiveness
regarding this situation. In my experience, it will likely be an unfolding
process; one that I can embrace for the purposes of practice, and draw upon the
strength I build from the experience to apply to the next situation that will
require my surrender and forgiveness. For letting go is simply a process of
surrender and forgiveness. And the process is simple a matter of choice. Do I stay?
Or do I go?
Robert Meagher has
been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual
Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.
A Mantra for Positivity
by Robert Meagher on 01/02/21
Much has been said and written about the power of positive
thinking. Indeed, science and spirituality have had much to say about how
positive thinking can improve our health and well-being.
Take Masaru Emoto’s ground-breaking book “The Hidden
Messages in Water.” Emoto examined how the molecules of water are affected by
our thoughts, words, and feelings. The findings were remarkable and led the way
for a whole science behind the power of positive thinking. In summary, Emoto
found that when we are filled with positive thoughts, when we express positive
words, and when we feel positive feelings, the crystalline structures of water
molecules were beautifully formed. As opposed to when we are filled with
negative thoughts, express negative words, and when we feel negative feelings,
the crystalline structures of water molecules were deformed and often
collapsed.
Emoto’s findings were significant, in part, because of the
science behind the water content of the body. Data varies, but it is generally
thought that the body is made up of 60% water, with the brain and the lungs
comprising upwards to 80% water. If positive thoughts, words and feelings can
affect the crystalline structure of water molecules, then positive thoughts,
words and feelings can surely affect the cellular structure of the human body.
Therefore, Emoto’s research showed that positive thoughts, words and feelings
can affect our overall health and well-being.
Spirituality also has much to contribute to the science of
positive thinking. Most any spiritual teaching I have studied incorporates
teachings about positive thinking, words and actions. These positive thoughts,
words and actions nurture the soul and move us collectively toward
enlightenment. Any spiritual practice I have engaged in has had the effect of
improving my overall health and outlook on life—from meditation to yoga, a
positive mindset offers remarkable life-giving and healing energy.
It may be too easy, for some, to accept the fact that we
simply need to choose positive thoughts, choose to express positive words, or
choose to feel positive feelings. For some, practicing positivity through
various tools and techniques is a helpful way to build our positivity muscle
and capacity, and allow positivity to be our life force. I am one of those people.
The more I practice positivity through tools and techniques, the more
positivity becomes engrained in my DNA, my psyche, and my way of being.
I recently started a new business and, at times, struggled
with keeping my thoughts positive about the endeavor. I could easily think all
kinds of reasons why I shouldn’t go ahead with the adventure. I remember one
day, in the midst of ‘start up’ efforts, I decided to focus my attention on why
I should proceed with my business venture, instead of why I should not. On the
same day I decided to focus my attention on positive thoughts about starting
the business, a passage came into my life that I now use as a daily mantra for
positivity. I want to share it with you. The passage comes from A Course in
Miracles and is stated as follows:
I will use the power of my will today. It is not my
will to grope about in darkness, fearful of shadows and afraid of things unseen
and unreal. Light shall be my guide today. I will follow it where it leads me,
and I will look only on what it shows me. This day I will experience the peace
of true perception.
As with the above mantra, positive thoughts help us to
dispel our fears. Positive thoughts allow us to walk through life guided by a
life force that is imbued with light and love. When we allow the light of
positivity to expand outwards, the world around us transforms. Anything is
possible. Everything is beautiful. All is love.
Robert Meagher has
been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual
Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.
Let Life Take You Along For The Ride
by Robert Meagher on 12/02/20
I recently decided to start a business. The business will
officially launch in November 2020. From the moment the seed of this idea was
planted, it took off and developed a life of its own. I decided to let it take
me along for the journey.
There were numerous factors that influenced my decision to start this business; no one of them more important than the other. It was the combination of all the factors that finally made me decide to flip the switch and make it happen.
Once the decision was made to start the business, and the wheels were set in motion, all my efforts fell into place and everything went quite smoothly. The initiative took on a life of its own.
From the onset I decided to go along for the ride. I became increasingly curious where this was going to lead me. I still don’t know where it’s going to lead me. As of the time of this article’s writing, the business has not even launched yet. But with great curiosity I am consciously deciding to go along for the ride to see where it takes me.
I smile when I think about the mystery of life and how we can never know what’s going to show up next. If you had told me six months ago that I would be starting a business, I may have thought you were crazy. I had no idea this was coming. It was not something I planned for. It just happened.
Alas…we can’t plan for life. We may think we can, but life just happens. There is a wonderful saying… ‘We plan and God laughs!’ Yes, God laughs indeed at the folly of our misguided belief we can plan for what happens in our life. There’s nothing wrong with planning, per se. Planning can be a very good thing. Take a grocery list, for example. It can be very helpful to have a grocery list so that when you arrive at the grocery store, you remember what you are supposed to pick up.
Planning is not a bad thing. But let us be aware what planning is all about. Planning is an attempt to control our fears over what would happen if we didn’t plan! In other words, we plan because we are afraid of what would happen if we didn’t! Most of us are not aware of why we plan. Most of us are afraid of what would happen if we didn’t plan. Those that are aware of the reason they plan, can accept when plans don’t go exactly ‘as planned’ or when something pops up out of left field.
Those that can let life take them along for the ride are not immune to planning. But what these people can do is make adjustments to their life when their so-called plans don’t work out.
Robert Meagher has been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.
Living In Gratitude
by Robert Meagher on 11/02/20
I have recently taught myself to live each day like it was
my last. This realization became evident throughout this past summer.
Some of you may know that I am an avid cyclist. My outings typically include packing my panier bags with food, water, and clothing (and other cycling supplies) and heading off for a day-long adventure. This past summer, my favorite destination was the hills of the Gatineau Park. The Park offers challenging terrain that regularly hosts triathletes, Olympians, and other competitive athletes. I have come to welcome the challenge in the Gatineau Park. The pristine roadways that wind their way through unspoiled forest have become a little piece of heaven for me.
Whether it’s cycling through the Gatineau Park, or taking a more relaxed cycle on more gentle terrain, I have become acutely aware of just how grateful I am to be able to spend a day on my bicycle. Whether it was a cycle in the Spring, Summer, or Fall, this season I treated each and every cycle like it was my last cycle for the season. I didn’t consciously intend to treat each cycle like it was my last one. It just happened. And as each cycling adventure unfolded and came to an end for that day, I became acutely grateful for the blessing of that day.
The practice of treating each cycling day like it was my last, has spilled over into other parts of my life. Now, each day, whether it includes cycling or not, I feel an immense gratitude for the day. It could even be a mundane day, one where everything goes as planned. Sometimes its these days I am the ‘most’ grateful for.
This attitude of gratitude has allowed me to live in gratitude. And it’s not only the ‘good’ that I’m grateful for. To truly live in gratitude means to welcome it all! Not only am I grateful for what I see as good, but I’m becoming equally grateful for what I see as other than good. This living in gratitude reminds me of the beautiful poem by Rumi, ‘The Guest House’:
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Welcome gratitude into your life. It can transform you and your life in ways you could never imagine!
Robert Meagher has
been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual
Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.
The Journey of ‘S’elf Discovery
by Robert Meagher on 10/02/20
In Richard Harvey’s 3-stage model of human awakening, the
first stage is all about the journey of self-discovery. The ‘self’ this stage
speaks about is the true, authentic self. It is often spelt ‘Self’ in spiritual
teachings, with a capital ‘S’.
What is this journey of ‘S’elf discovery? What does the
journey look like? How does one travel on this journey? Where does the journey
end? And what does one discover at the end? Who and/or what is this true,
authentic ‘S’elf?
What is this journey of ‘S’elf discovery? The journey
of ‘S’elf discovery includes a process of shedding early life conditioning.
This early life conditioning is poignantly adopted from childhood. Our early
years are formative and they can leave an indelible mark on us. This early life
conditioning is carried forward into our adolescent and adult years. The result
is a contracted adolescence and adulthood. We carry around remnants of our
early life conditioning and don’t move fully into adolescence or adulthood. We
are actually living a ‘kid-olescent’ and ‘kid-ult’ existence (kid + adolescent
= kid-olescent; kid + adult = kid-ult). The kid-olescent and kid-ult are
chronologically mature, but they are not psychologically mature. The result of
this ‘kid-escent’ or ‘kid-ult’ existence are behaviors, reactions and decisions
that are psychologically immature. The kid-olescent and kid-ult allows their early
life conditioning to infiltrate their existence and keeps them tied to their
early life experiences. Until the kid-olescent and kid-ult sheds their early
life experiences, they are subject to a limited life—a life limited by beliefs
of who they think they are, what they think the world is, and what they think their
place is in the world.
What does the journey look like? The journey of
‘S’elf discovery is a lot like ‘peeling the layers off an onion.’ Our early
life experiences result in the building up of layers of protective covering
that grew as a result of our sense of danger and a need to protect ourselves
from what we thought was going on around us. As each layer of the protective
child-hood covering is peeled away, scars are revealed. The sensation can be
like ripping a band-aide off a festering sore. Eventually the scars heal,
however, until the next layer is peeled away. You may notice, however, that as
each layer of the onion is peeled away, the core of the onion becomes a lighter
and lighter color. So too is the journey of ‘S’elf discovery. As we shed more
and more of our childhood conditioning, our story becomes more bathed in light.
The brighter the light becomes, the purity of our true, authentic ‘S’elf starts
to reveal it’S’elf.
How does one travel on this journey? There is no one
way to travel on the journey of ‘S’elf discovery. Each one must find his/her
way. Most people never find the courage to undertake the journey. But for those
that do, there are many decisions to make along the way. Do I go this journey
alone? Do I work with someone? Is there a community of people who could support
me through the journey? The Way of Sacred Attention teaches there are three
pillars of personal and spiritual growth and development: the teacher, the teaching,
and the sanga, or spiritual community. The journey of ‘S’elf discovery is
similar. One can benefit from a teacher (or therapist, or healer), a teaching
(a method or modality), and a sanga (a community of people that can support the
seeker on their journey).
Where does the journey end? The journey of ‘S’elf
discover may never end, as we hopefully continue to learn about ourselves our
entire embodied lives. However, at a point we realize all the beliefs we held
about ourselves, the world, and our place in the world, have changed. We
realize we are not the person we thought we once were. We arrive at this point
through forgiveness, in the spiritual sense. Forgiveness arises as a practice
of letting go of the past with the realization that what we thought happened to
us never actually did—it only happened in our mind. It did not happen in truth.
What does one discover at the end? This is a very personal
question. Not everyone discovers the same things. But there are some common
themes that emerge for those who have shed their early childhood conditioning.
Those who have emerged from their early childhood conditioning have done so
because they have learned how to forgive. They have risen into the heart space
that is filled with love, harmony, compassion, and joy. The tell-tale sign of
someone who has shed early childhood conditioning is they have rediscovered a
sense of peace in their life. What we may discover at the end is our true,
authentic ‘S’elf.
Who and/or what is this true, authentic ‘S’elf? Our
true, authentic ‘S’elf is devoid of attachment to anything or anyone. We no
longer cling to our story. We no longer find value in the past and all that it
meant to us. We jettison our story of early life experiences. We hold on to
nothing. We learn to live in the eternal ‘now.’ While we may plan for the
future, we accept whatever happens, not what we may have planned for or wanted
to happen. Our relationships are not based on what we need or want from the
other person, but what we can share with the other. Our true, authentic ‘S’elf
learns that in giving we receive and that the only thing worth giving is love.
Alas, we realize that the only thing we want to do with love is to give it
away. We rest in peace knowing that this love will return to us, because we
have given it away.
Robert Meagher has been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.
